THIS MAN IS POSSESSIVE

Ah! Haven't I got stucked in an engagement that will snuff life out of me? I have little kids that I cannot live on earth and proceed to Heaven. Who will help me? Wow! This man is possessive. Always monitoring my movement.

I am always submissive to him and I am a slave to him even in the bedroom. All my support is at his beck and call. I give him everything he wants and everything he needs. Even if it is not convenient for me, I sacrifice this moment. The house help is more like a detective for him. What more does he want?

When I am on the phone, he overs all over the phone call

He is a tail stucked onto me when I am going out

He keeps a landline at home to monitor my movement. When he calls and no one picks the call, he will come back home deliberately without his car in quick assumption that another man is with me. When we are in either Churches or an event, he doesn't want me to move an inch away from him. He takes the responsibility to drop the kids in School including all the Schools activities, he will still be the one to take charge.

He keeps a First Class Architectural graduate in his home as an house wife. What about what I want to do? What about my freedom? What about following my dreams?

I have had plans of leaving this marriage, but what about my kids? I do not want to raise them without a father or in another marriage or as a single mother. If I threaten him with this, he will hold me to ransom with suicidal attempts.

My parents are no more. I have no where to fall back to. He has alienated from keeping friends. He and the house help goes to the market when the house is in need of home groceries. Just to stretch my legs as been timetabled on Saturdays and Sundays so he will have the opportunity to follow me. Hmm! All the neighbours think this marriage is like a bed of roses, they do not know that I am in bondage.

He is never ready to have a discussion, either for fun or serious business. He does not even give me any chance to advise, encourage and at least, view my support on how his business will grow. But he is always ready to monitor my movement and accompany me to anywhere. In fact, he constantly leaves office to accompany me to wherever I am going.

Who is willing to help me? Who is ready to hear my silent screams? Who is ready to help me counsel my husband because all what I listed down are not ordinary protection over a spouse? What will I do? What can I do? What should I do?

WRITTEN BY: ADEBAYO, Busayo.